MIKETHEBIKE
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Just seen this Russ. My thoughts are with you and your family at this very sad time.
Coming to terms with recent events
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wheeliebin
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Really sorry for your loss DC.
Don't fill the void with sadness and sorrow, be proud and remember her with a smile.
John.
Don't fill the void with sadness and sorrow, be proud and remember her with a smile.
John.
PaulC
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digitalcaptive said:
Sorry to say Russ but it's the norm nowadays , don't take it all on your shoulders ,let someone else deal with it.
I learnt that the hard way too when my mother died 5years ago, now I'm dealing with my fathers death on the 1st of March , just take it one step at a time ,and when it gets to much walk away for a bit.
Again , sorry to hear this news about your wife.
Take it easy , Paul
East Coast
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It bought a tear to my eye reading this mate, so sorry to hear.
There's life and there's death. Then there's the middle bit - dying. When it come to cancer the middle bit is nothing short of evil torture for everyone involved. On top of this there's also the feeling that you're watching someone die and are helpless to do anything to stop it, it really does take some to hold it together.
If there is any practical advice i can offer and that's to take some time off work, 6 weeks at least, a year even better. When i went through this I took a loan to cover unpaid time off and i was very pleased i did. Get over the exhaustion by jumping on your bike and visiting all your bigtrailie friends one-by-one perhaps.
Above all, don't under estimate the impact that it would undoubtedly had on you.
There's a bed, beer, a-good-ear, and lots of cigarettes here for you in Suffolk chap!
There's life and there's death. Then there's the middle bit - dying. When it come to cancer the middle bit is nothing short of evil torture for everyone involved. On top of this there's also the feeling that you're watching someone die and are helpless to do anything to stop it, it really does take some to hold it together.
If there is any practical advice i can offer and that's to take some time off work, 6 weeks at least, a year even better. When i went through this I took a loan to cover unpaid time off and i was very pleased i did. Get over the exhaustion by jumping on your bike and visiting all your bigtrailie friends one-by-one perhaps.
Above all, don't under estimate the impact that it would undoubtedly had on you.
There's a bed, beer, a-good-ear, and lots of cigarettes here for you in Suffolk chap!
digitalcaptive said:
Africa John
Member
Oh Russ mate
Just got back from a 2 week family holiday today and read this
So so sorry
Was so happy to see your wedding photos after your accident on our way back from the Welsh Invasion
Am sure family and friends will be there for you
Look forward to seeing you soon and having a chat
Sincere best wishes and deepest sympathy
John
Just got back from a 2 week family holiday today and read this
So so sorry
Was so happy to see your wedding photos after your accident on our way back from the Welsh Invasion
Am sure family and friends will be there for you
Look forward to seeing you soon and having a chat
Sincere best wishes and deepest sympathy
John
As I've never met you or Mel I thought it best to say nothing, however sometimes that can be the problem as people are scared to bring it up in case it upsets you. It really is a hard thing to go through but as others said get on your bike n visit friends,old and new. Friends are the people who can help you through this time, talking, drinking, laughing while remembering the good times. There is a few folks up this part of the world so come up, it wouldn't be an imposition on anyone I'm sure...and the bonus is I speak the queens English so can decipher some of what they say up here!
RIP Mel & thoughts are with you at this time DC.
RIP Mel & thoughts are with you at this time DC.
MooN
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Re: Re : Coming to terms with recent events
Russ. We've never met but you have my deepest sympathies and heartfelt condolences. I have just today started the long process of helping my mother in law sort out the administrative side of dealing with the loss of her husband,my father in law who we said goodbye to just a week ago after a year long struggle with lung cancer. I understand your feeling of relief, and almost guilt at the relief. I also sympathise with the frustration of having to deal with money matters despite the grief. Thoughts and prayers go out to you and your grieving family, from another.
MooN.
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Russ. We've never met but you have my deepest sympathies and heartfelt condolences. I have just today started the long process of helping my mother in law sort out the administrative side of dealing with the loss of her husband,my father in law who we said goodbye to just a week ago after a year long struggle with lung cancer. I understand your feeling of relief, and almost guilt at the relief. I also sympathise with the frustration of having to deal with money matters despite the grief. Thoughts and prayers go out to you and your grieving family, from another.
MooN.
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NickelArse
Member
Fighting back the tears. Reading comments bring uo the shadows of 16 months ago. Friends helped me as they will help you.
I've gone full circle looking for reasons and only now am i ready to start again. Take your time mate. Stay strong. My sincere condolences.
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I've gone full circle looking for reasons and only now am i ready to start again. Take your time mate. Stay strong. My sincere condolences.
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I've only just seen this....soo sad...
Best wishes from the continent...I'm never sure what to say in these situations..
Get on yer bike and as someone else said, get away from life for a bit...otherwise everywhere you look will be reminders; Not that that's a bad thing, but you know what I mean...
Best wishes from the continent...I'm never sure what to say in these situations..
Get on yer bike and as someone else said, get away from life for a bit...otherwise everywhere you look will be reminders; Not that that's a bad thing, but you know what I mean...